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beautiful holiday season I am sending you so much love. I am back home in San Diego with my family and to be honest it's very conflicting right now the word home because home like I'm my family's from San Diego I have considered my home San Diego until now. Were really in the last year. What now feels like home is Sayulita, Mexico. So now that I'm here we go. I'm like can't wait to go home back to say, Lita, and it's I'm so blessed that I get to have kind of two homes and both of them are pretty much vacation resorts like destinations where people vacation so I feel really beyond blessed. But I have to admit that game back in San Diego, this time around has really solid FIDE that Sayulita Mexico is my home like there is a piece of my soul that just misses it so much when I am gone. It truly feels like magic there. The energy is just amazing and actually transformative. It's a magical place. It's actually a vortex where it's in between these mountains that are Rose Quartz. So it's a place where there's a lot of spiritual healing a lot of spiritual powers and living there on and off for the last year and half I have noticed how it actually speeds up your transformation. I just missed the energy when I'm gone. And also I want to say stay tuned to the end of this episode because I invitation I'm finally going to be sharing my offer. And a part of my offer is going to be inviting you to come down to sign Lita, Mexico so you can experience the magic for yourself. So this episode is going to be short to the point and once again I'm going to share my offer but I want it to be short for reason because I want to make one point here as I we are in the spirit of the end of the year and taking time to reflect and for me this year. This is the end of my fifth year. In business. So I officially left my corporate job I was the director of people and culture at a mortgage company, the last job that I had, and December 27 2018 was my last day there and since then I have been self employed and a full time entrepreneur. And I just I'm giving myself like literally a pat on the back right now because there's statistics out there that talk about how most businesses most entrepreneurs don't make it past the three year mark and here I am. Five years into my journey. And just I feel like I'm just getting started. It's getting easier it's getting better every year in specially this last year has been probably one of the hardest years for me but going into 2023 I feel better than I ever had before in my life and also as an entrepreneur and just the trust that I have with myself and knowing that, you know doesn't always look like we think it's going to look but when we learn how to trust ourselves and we learn how to develop the skill of knowing how to make money no matter what. Then the highs and the lows and everything come in what I really like this year has shown me because there has been times in my businesses where I was at a low and I think my most memorable low that I love sharing is when I had to sell vintage fur coats to pay for an Uber from the airport to a hotel because I was going to see my mentor and to pay for food at while I was staying there so that I can figure out how to build my business and make money like that was the love of my business. And I had no idea at that point how to make money I was so afraid. And then for my business to then from there, pat you know go from consistent to you know, figuring out how to make consistent $10,000 months and then $15,000 months and then occasionally having like a $25,000 month and having you know a high of a because like almost 50 or $60,000 was my most profitable month right? And then even having a realization in my business where it's not even about the money, right? It's like so much more than that and just reflecting back at everything I've done and the programs and the clients I've worked with and the results that they got in and now this technique that I've created, it just really has been such a beautiful experience of getting to experience the highs and the lows and what this year has done for me is that it I had a lot of lows right this year was probably one of as far as number wise like metric wise lower than I had ever expected. But who I how I showed up and who I became made this the best year of my life because what I can really see now it's like when things are good and money's coming in, it can be easy but who you're being when you don't have the numbers to support you or you don't have the evidence. That's everything and that's what this year has showed me is that I have this unshakable confidence in this knowing in this deep trust that I know how to make money. I know people I know how to do it no matter what. And that is the absolute best feeling in the whole entire world. And that's what I really know that I am meant to teach other people because the from this place like everything is possible and it really is about this identity and how you see yourself because it's not about the strategy is it's not you know, so many different strategies get you there, but it's really who you are being and I've been sharing with you guys the last couple podcasts that you know really at this point, it's been about 11 weeks that I have gone on this deep transformation and I'm calling it transformation very purposely because to me transformation is when you're doing the hard work and you're just going in and applying the tools and really going deep and that's what it was for me where I had at this point I look back and I see that I actually reset my nervous system so that it feels different inside but what that really looked like was for many, many weeks, releasing emotional, which is just basically sitting in a lot of emotions and sitting in a lot of discomfort. And on the other side of going through this deep transformation work. I am absolutely blown away with how I feel and how easy just life feels now because I'm not being triggered by things. I'm not reacting to things but I'm able to have a little bit of space and respond. And right now. It has really been this place of feeling sufficient feeling enough being in this place where I'm creating my next offer from I have all the time in the world. I don't need to do this for any certain timeline for any certain metrics. I don't need the money. I'm doing this because I want to and because it excites me and the fun thing has been really taking my time and this is kind of a side note, like one of the lessons I've learned from this place of sufficiency is that when I have time when I've been taking time to really sit with this offer what has been happening in me is that I'm building up this excitement within me, I'm building up this demand within me because I have the space of building up this desire for it. So it just feels really solid inside of my body. And it's just like I am the embodiment of it because I don't need to take the actions to feel good. I don't need to take the actions to prove to myself I don't need to take the actions to know that I'm enough. It's just this is who I am. And I know that when I offer this, I know that I know how to make money. I know how to make offers, so I know it's gonna come. So I'm in this super grounded place. That just feels really really, really amazing. And knowing what I know now, right after spending $100,000 On my own growth on programs, on coaches on programs that didn't work that on getting information on probably 1000s of hours of applying and coaching and a hundreds of hours of coaching and making Almost 100 Almost half a million dollars my business. Here is what I know for sure and I want to see so clearly. What is keeping you stuck from you feeling this to from you having this as well. And if you're not where you want to be if you're not making the money that you think you should be, if you're not showing up or being visible in your business, if you keep starting and stopping if you have the ideas and you want to share but then you don't actually put out because when you sit down to do what you spin out. The thing that's really in your way all of that is happening is because of your emotions. Because you have emotional coding because there's motion setpoint and because you're not willing to be uncomfortable to get through that to break the coding. Now, you might understand this until actually right you might even be like yes Lauren, I already know this. You understand the emotions, you might even understand the release. You might have even done it before but what I know is that if you're not bonding consistently, then you're going to get stuck in just having the information isn't enough. And now going back and looking at myself and my clients I see sold so clearly that it's like we know we have this information. We're so smart, but there's just this in it's almost as imaginary thing that's in our way from being able to consistently apply it and it really comes down to the emotional work. And what I see is that people and it's almost like, I always want to joke and make this like kind of a funny thing where it's like this. It's like this problem in the entrepreneur, industry or online coaching industry is that consuming right like seeing this consuming mode of just need more information. And here's the thing about information and consuming is that it feels so good, right? It feels good to learn it to have these breakthroughs. But the problem is is that we stay in this consuming and believe me I know like this is like one of the main problems that you just think you need more information. Or you have the information but you're just not applying it. And what happens is that when the resistance up when we spin when it's really these patterns and this emotional coding that's coming up and we go back to the old way we can't even see it because it's just our norm. And what I want to remind you is that like you this isn't a motivational problem. You have an emotional problem, right? You you don't fully understand how the emotion fits into your programming, which is having you stay stuck and really when it comes down to it, you're just not willing to be uncomfortable. Right? That's why you're going that's why I know this was myself for so much and I still do this on some moments but this is why we avoid this is why we buffer This is why we find ourselves when we're like should be working, scrolling on social media or trying to organize our like books or going and eating food or going and watching TV right? It's because we're not we're not doing the emotional work. We're not actually breaking it. We're just staying on the surface. We're staying in our mindset that we're staying During the comfortable thing, we're not doing the hard transformational work and really being able to break the emotional coding, which is the thing in your way. Now, like I said, we have information, you're smart, I know you're capable, but unless it's embodied, it's just going to be pointless. Now, I want you to think about this. Okay? So let's say you want to surf, you want to learn how to surf. You can read a book and most likely these days you would go over to YouTube and search maybe a YouTube video. You can have all the information but until you actually get into the water, and you start the surfing or like to say, you're not going to be good at surfing, you're actually not going to know how to surf. And in fact, in order to become a good surfer, what that actually requires you is going in and failing a lot and being really bad for a really long time. The same with snowboarding. I don't know about you guys. But my first year of snowboarding I spent a lot of time on my butt. Now after snowboarding for 20 something years, I smoke most people down the mountains and people like how do you do that and like because I practiced it's the same is true for entrepreneurship and making money. You have to apply the information that we learned, right we can listen to podcasts, we can actually even buy courses which I love courses and I've done them but I see the problem with them is the actual doing of the work. It's just more information and it's not. It's not doing anything for us. It's giving us a temporary fix. Because we feel hopeful. It's that smoking kopien like oh, I have this new solution. Looking for the magic answer. This is what keeps us in looking for the magic answer is because we think that there's an answer and some more information, but it's just actually applying the information because you actually know it. Most people when I coach them, they're like, Oh yeah, I know that, but they're just not doing it. So this is really about being able to apply what you know and for entrepreneurship. It's the same thing. You have to go out there you have to do trial and error. What it looks like is it feels icky, and it looks messy, but you can still be making money. And what most people do is they give up. The way that we actually change is that our actions reinforce who we're being and so we have to in order to become a good entrepreneur in order to make money in order to really get good at it. You have to go out there and take a lot of action and through that action, the trust is built and that's really when you get good. I mean like okay, I know what I'm doing. But most people they give up when it's hard and they don't stay in the transformation long enough. And so, that's really what this is, is this transformation. And, you know, you Yes, you have to the mindset part. The emotional work is so important, but it's really the action that locks it in. Confidence is created through action. You we have to show ourselves who we're being by our actions. And so this is really the catch 22 Is that we're most of us get stuck in the emotion so we don't even get to the action. So a we don't get the results. And B we don't change because it takes action. So when we take the action and we don't get the results we give up. And so it's our ability to stay in the action consistently that we're then able to really see ourselves as this person and then we're able to identify and build trust and that's what we have to do as entrepreneurs is really go through that process. And I talked about this all the time that information versus transformation versus embodiment. There's different stages and when you're in in how you show up in your business and let me say this, you can make money from all different stages. But the more that you are embodied, that's the place where it's it's good, where you feel solid, where you have trust, and yet we're looking at other people that are having success. That's what they are the embodied version. We have to do the hard work. Now, the good news is that you're really good at the information part, right? Like you don't need information, any more information. You already have all the tools. You just have to apply it but that's really where the hard part is because it requires you to overcome your programming, which is just where we get stuck. And here's what I wish I would have known that would have sped up my results and would have saved me a whole lot of time, energy and money was if I had just gotten really good at my emotions, instead of just avoiding the same thing over and over and over again. And doing more mindset work but really stopped and did like in was willing to be uncomfortable long enough was got really good at being in the resistance and actually how to stop the programming. And I almost like to think of it as like a computer right with a computer. We're always upgrading the different versions. And the same thing with our mindset. And the thing that allows it to stick is the emotions with the actions. So the real problem is that what's really blocking us is just the emotion that's triggering the old pattern or the old belief over and over and over again. So until you reset that nervous system so that it's a clean slate. It's going to make it really really hard. Now, I know what you want is just to feel confident. You want to feel confident and capable. Now, you want to know that your success is inevitable. You want to be showing up and being visible in your business and you want it to be fun and feel you not drain you. You ultimately just want to trust yourself to be able to create money because from that place, then things get to be really fun and that's what you want is fun. And I'm here to tell you that it is possible I promise I had become this person and it took me five years to really understand it through lots of trials that I am proof and this is really when the exciting part starts to happen. And I literally like feeling the excitement building my body is I'm going to be doing things very different in 2023 with my offers on my clients, knowing what I know now like sharing what I just shared with you and understanding like where we go wrong is that my clients are just in the information stage and they don't ever really get to that transformation into the transformation or embodiment right in the scene that consuming mode and the excitement of this like new magical tool fades but then they're left in the same spot. So I have decided to create a transformational container that is going to help you master entrepreneurship right not just have the information, but you actually are this person you see yourself as that person you're able to take actions and you're no longer asking how or why you just know you feel unshakable in your business and you trust yourself to make money no matter what. So here's my life changing invitation for you, my friends. It's time to do transformation in business, the fun way. So get your passport ready. I'm inviting you to come down to slighly to Mexico for an all inclusive retreat tailored just to you. It's a tropical vacation, one on one transformation retreat, custom business strategy and six month coaching package, all tied into one offer. I'm going to be by your side, your biggest cheerleader giving you exactly what you need, keeping you in action while it's uncomfortable, so that you're able to transform and finally get into the embodiment. We're looking at your business and your life from new eyes from a different perspective that's going to create new identity beliefs and habits that last. Here's the thing. Changing your physical environment is one of the easiest and most fun ways to change your subconscious mind and reset your nervous system. And our week together. We'll do the deep transformation work and in between having fun transformations speeds up when you get out of your head and into your body. And we're not just going to learn about it more information. We're going to actually do it together so that you learn a level of mastery. Imagine getting coached on a mega yacht while watching the sunset, or while drinking margaritas from a beach or hiking through the jungle. When was the last time you gave yourself a week to really be with yourself and your desires and transform. I'm going to create a custom experience based on your unique tastes. Your desired results I've been living in this town for the last year and a half and I know all the best restaurants, food shopping sunsets, massages and healers. And I'm just calling it what it is. Okay, this is the best fucking offer ever. I don't have a name yet but that's what I'm calling it. For now. So everything that you need to make your business success inevitable and the fun way. Have you ever thought that maybe the reason why you don't have the results already? Or why you keep on giving up on yourself is because you're trying to change and build a business from a boring honestly unsustainable way. You can keep on doing that or you can get on a plane and come down to Mexico and do it the fun way that actually works. This offer is going to change your life. I know it's completely has changed mine doing this and I want to do it with you too. So if you're interested, book a call with me in the show notes. There'll be a link to book a call. And I'm telling you right now do not wait if you're interested. This is going to sell out. I only have limited spots. I have two spots available for the first quarter. So if you're interested you want to get started beginning of 23 come to Mexico which by the way is the best weather. So hit me up let's get on a call. I can't wait this is going to be next level. And also if you are a coach or some kind of healer, and you're thinking about maybe wanting to host your own retreats, but you don't know where to start. You don't want to do the logistics. I'm also going to be in 2023 helping other coaches create their own retreats for either one on one or group so if you're interested in coming to Sai Lita, but you don't want to do all the planning you don't want to do the logistics. You just want to show up and teach and have your people hit me up. I'm also going to be doing that at some point this year. So I'm so excited to show the world Sayulita it's so magical I can't wait for you to come experience it's going to change your life. And this offer is just proof that everything is always happening for a reason. Like when I was going through the toughest times of my life in my business in the last 11 weeks. I had to let go of what I thought it was going to look like and this offer is just a result in proof that it gets to get better like this lights me up to think about doing this. At one point. I even wanted to be an event planner. And I've been planning events on and off for the last few years actually the last 10 years. So this really gets to bring all together my zone of genius with connecting in person and transformation in helping people with business strategy. And it really gets to be fun, and we get to send an amazing time together. So if you've been thinking about working with me, this is your year. This is your time. Let's fuckin do it. Okay, I hope you enjoyed this podcast. If you did, please share please review. Let me know what you think. Keep on and please thank you so much for sending me all the client messages about this podcast and all the things I love hearing from you please let me know sending you so much Love
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